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For all the attention we lavish on St. Valentine's day, very little is known about the person for whom it is named.  If he even existed... it's almost like a blind date, we know so little. 

While we're on the subject of dating, let's bring in Skyler Wang, a PhD candidate in sociology at the University of California-Berkeley.  He studies and leads classes in the subject areas of love and romance. 

Some of his work focuses on the difficulties and opportunities in dating in rural areas (of which we have plenty). 

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Not all the people we choose to join in relationships are good at it.  Being in relationships, that is. 

Ashland author Sierra Faith notices in particular that narcissists make poor relationship partners. 

She writes of the initial attraction and the predictable problems in Absolutely Adored: Stop Choosing Narcissistic Men and Finally Be a Well-Loved Woman

It contains plenty of advice for recognizing risky relationship partners, and steering clear. 

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"Love is all around us," an old song assures us.  Insert your preferred lyrics on love here... there are LOTS of them. 

Corvallis therapist Linda Carroll explores love and its expressions in her work... that led to a book called Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love

She joined us in October 2014, and we revisit the interview here. 

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Three-day weekends are rare for the Exchange staff in the first half of the year.  So you'll excuse us for leaving a couple of reruns in the jukebox for Memorial Day. 

At 8: Melissa Clarke shares her doctoring experience with the world in her book Excuse Me Doctor!  I've Got What?  She shows patients how to take control of their health care.  

At 9: Former "Sex and the City" writer Cindy Chupack covers sex and love in the real world in a book about her own search for relationship success: The Longest Date: Life as a Wife

Rewind: The Right Words In a Relationship

Jan 12, 2017
H. Andrew Schwartz, Johannes C. Eichstaedt, Margaret L. Kern, Lukasz Dziurzynski, Stephanie M. Ramones, Megha Agrawal, Achal Shah, Michal Kosinski, David Stillwell, Martin E. P. Seligman, Lyle H. Ungar - http://www.plosone.org/article/info%3Adoi%2F10.1

Any relationship with another human being is bound to have a few sensitive areas, subject matters that are trod upon lightly.

And the choices we make in HOW to talk about them can make all the difference. 

Relationship expert and therapist Carl Alasko points out just how critical word choices are in his book Say This, Not That

That title should tell you plenty. 

Learning To Apologize Better

Jan 10, 2017
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It's a simple thing, really, saying "I'm sorry, I messed up."  Well maybe the words are simple, but the process stumps a lot of us. 

In fact, it's not uncommon for people to botch an apology so badly that the hurt feelings are deepened. 

Therapist and relationship expert Harriet Lerner explores the difficulty inherent in apologizing in her book  Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

Guy Finley On Relationships

Feb 29, 2016
Susan Langston

Show biz was where Guy Finley worked for years, but he didn't feel satisfied. 

So he retired to the hills near Grants Pass, setting up the Life of Learning Foundation. 

As the name implies, Finley explores a lot of issues that adults face, including relationships. 

He recently developed a new program on "Relationship Magic." 

Put Your Relationship Through A Stress Test

Feb 16, 2016
Berkley Books

Remember when the federal treasury secretary talked about "stress-testing" the country's banks?  Jill Andres and Brook Silva-Braga can do something similar for relationships.

And they've tested it... on themselves. 

Their book The Marriage Test lays out a pathway for couples to follow to figure out their compatibility. 

It won't be easy, but then relationships aren't always, either. 

World-Class Romantic Disasters

Nov 16, 2015
Henry Holt

So maybe you had a relationship or three that went awry: she threw your clothes in the yard, or he trashed you on Facebook. 

Those actions pale by comparison with some historically bad separations. 

Author Jennifer Wright documents 13 of the worst breakups in history in her book It Ended Badly.

The Longest Date (Forever, Maybe?)

Jan 10, 2014
Penguin Books

Cindy Chupack mined a rich writing vein by NOT settling down.

The Between Boyfriends Book made the bestseller lists, and she wrote five seasons of scripts for HBO's famed "Sex and the City."