Maybe your boss set up some exercises to help you and your colleagues work better together. 

And maybe you did become a better and more productive team as a result. 

But at least one psychologist believes firmly that knowing YOURSELF better is the key to success at work and elsewhere. 

Tasha Eurich is that psychologist, and the author of Insight: Why We're Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life

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"Two heads are better than one" seems like a mismatched phrase with "fake news," but there's a common thread. 

And that is the working of the human brain.  We tend to think better in groups than as individuals. 

And that may explain why left to our own devices, we believe in conspiracy theories or lying reporters. 

Steven Sloman and Philip Fernbach are the co-authors of The Knowledge Illusion: Why We Never Think Alone.

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We don't want everyone to know everything about us. 

But that's just privacy; secrets are another matter entirely.  And research shows that keeping secrets can damage relationships, wounding both keeper and finder of the secret. 

Jane Isay, who comes from a family of psychologists and psychiatrists, wrote about the issues in her book Secrets and Lies

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"Never put off 'til tomorrow what you can do today."  Yeah, that works. 

But isn't a little R & R today worth a little panic tomorrow?  At some level, we seem to think so... procrastination is not rare in our culture. 

Psychologist Timothy Pychyl examines the causes and remedies, in his book Solving the Procrastination Puzzle

We talked to him a few years ago when the book first came out. 

You still hear someone talk about "horse sense" now and then. 

We can get a lot deeper into the conversation with Linda Kohanov. 

She knows horses and the people who work with them, and she shows how their expertise can benefit us, in the book The Five Ways Of the Master Herder

Finding Ways To Work Through Conflict

Dec 12, 2016

We can rail all we want about the nasty way people deal with each other in politics.  But Sarah Schulman says it's not just politics. 

Schulman is an English professor and a prolific author; her latest book Conflict is Not Abuse examines a culture of scapegoating in modern society. 

The book examines, among other things, how the behavior of supremacy and the behavior of being traumatized bears some resemblance. 

Being Proud But Not Too Loud

Sep 12, 2016

It's important to us, when people say "I'm proud of you." 

Pride in ourselves can be another matter entirely.  Pride is supposedly the deadliest of sins, the one that gets us all caught up in ourselves. 

What does science say about pride?  British Columbia psychologist Jessica Tracy says it can be channeled to good use.  She makes the case in her recent book Take Pride: Why The Deadliest Sin Holds The Secret To Human Success

How To Gain Power By Being Nice

May 26, 2016
Penguin Books

When psychologist Dacher Keltner first began studying power, he thought he'd focus on politics, battlefields, and Wall Street.  But he quickly discovered that people use power in many situations, even with loved ones. 

He also found that taking care of OTHER people's needs can enhance power, quite the opposite of what many people might think.  The wielding of power through compassion is one of the themes of Keltner's book The Power Paradox. 

Things You DO NOT Want To Inherit

May 23, 2016
Viking Press

Maybe your parents didn't get along so well.  Maybe, once you got older and noticed, your grandparents had very similar issues. 

We can't choose the families we're born into, but we can take note of what existed before we came along. 

Mark Wolynn, creator of the Family Constellation Institute, writes of "inherited family trauma" in his book It Didn't Start With You

Finding And Using Your True "Grit"

May 19, 2016
Scribner/Simon & Schuster

We know so much about the brain, and nerves, and neurotransmitters... but... there's still no set of directions on how best to think and use our lives and gifts.  So we resort to terms like "grit." 

Which is the term psychologist Angela Duckworth chooses to use for the combination of passion and persistence that often yields good results. 

So her book is called Grit as well. 

Dial Books

Susan Cain says she usually speaks quietly, but her 2012 book Quiet came in loud and clear to fellow introverts all over the world. 

It led to the creation of the company Quiet Revolution, dedicated to helping introverts share their talents and power with the world. 

And now there's a sequel for younger introverts: The book Quiet Power, aimed especially at kids and teens. 

Making A Case For Psychedelics

Mar 28, 2016

Many of them are illegal under current drug laws, but lots of people believe in the beneficial uses of psychedelic drugs.

And they'll get a chance to convene and compare notes at the Exploring Psychedelics Conference next week (April 7-8) at Southern Oregon University, the third edition of this event. 

Matt Vogel and Martin Ball organized the first event and have watched it grow. 

Forgiveness As A Tool For Giver And Receiver

Feb 18, 2016
Penguin Books

"Forgive and forget," our parents often told us.  Sometimes we're better at one than the other. 

But plenty of people who know the human mind say the importance of forgiveness is not that it lets the person forgiven off the hook, but that it releases the person doing the forgiving. 

Unity minister, spiritual explorer, and bestselling author Joan Gattuso writes of the subject in The Power of Forgiveness

"I Can Help The Next Person..."

Feb 16, 2016
Workman Publishing

For some of us, waiting is akin to torture.

Others make the best of a slow-moving line, meeting new friends in the post office queue, or just enjoying the radio when stuck in a traffic jam.

David Andrews falls into this second, more patient category of humans.

His new book is called Why Does The Other Line Always Move Faster? The short answer is because you're not in it.

Expanding Your Passion Zone

Jan 1, 2016

Do you have a passion in your life?  Is it for your work, or a person, or a pastime? 

Because you CAN have a passion for life in general, says Gregg Levoy. 

Levoy is a speaker and writer, and the author of the recent book Vital Signs

It gets away from the idea of having a specific passion in life, and broadens the focus to a passion FOR life. 

Diverting People From Destructive Behaviors

Nov 20, 2015

People who behave badly are not necessarily bad people.  They might have simply missed opportunities for someone to recognize and deal with their behavior before it got out of hand. 

The new Center for Translational Neuroscience at the University of Oregon is designed to find and maximize those opportunities. 

CTN aims to train students to recognize and work with people who may be headed for addictions, anxiety, aggressive behavior and overeating. 

How To Interpret Signs While You're Awake

Nov 19, 2015
New World Library

You don't need to confine your dreams, or at least interpretations, to the nighttime. 

Your dreams are often symbolic, with lots of signs and symbols representing something other than what they appear. 

Robert Moss, a proponent of "active dreaming," says you can have some fun with the signs and symbols you see in your waking hours. 

Get ready for a whole new kind of intepretation, and prepare to become a "kairomancer," as Moss walks you into the concepts in his book Sidewalk Oracles: Playing With Signs, Symbols, And Synchronicity In Everyday Life

The State Of Our Boys

Oct 8, 2014

Actually heard in a fifth-grade math class: "I could be playing Minecraft right now." 

If you guessed the comment came from a boy, you guessed right. 

The American men of the future are often disaffected and disconnected as adolescents, leading some observers to speak in terms of a "boy crisis." 

Dr. Wes Crenshaw, Kansas psychologist, focuses much of his work on teens and younger children. 

Solving The Procrastination Puzzle TODAY

Dec 30, 2013
Penguin Books

We could not wait until the New Year started to talk to the author of this book. 

And true to form, Timothy Pychyl could not wait for a major publisher, so he self-published Solving The Procrastination Puzzle before a major house picked it up.